How did you meet?
We met at art college when we were 19 and were together for 10 years before getting engaged.
Tell us about the proposal
One of the first dates we went on was to Bodiam Castle; 10 years later we went back for a visit and as we were looking out at the view from one the turrets Dan got down on one knee and proposed.
What was the theme for the day, and did you have a colour scheme?
There was a slight castle theme as our tables were named after castles we had visited. The ceremony was at Tonbridge Castle and we had a white bouncy castle at our reception. We didn’t have a colour scheme, instead we decorated our venue with bunting that my mum made which was all different colours and patterns. It was more of a rustic theme as the reception was in a barn.
What venue did you choose and why did you choose it?
We chose two venues - one for our ceremony and one for our reception. We booked The Plough initially after attending an open day there. We really wanted to get married in a barn and have around 100 guests and this was somewhere that ticked both those boxes. The barn is stunning and had just the vibe we were looking for. We also really liked the fact that all the venue decorating, tableware, service and in-house catering was included in the price. It took a lot of stress out of having to arrange those things separately.
However, after we booked The Plough we realised Tonbridge Castle was just a couple of miles down the road and it cost only a tiny bit more to have the wedding spilt across the two venues, so we held the ceremony there.
When did you know when you’d found ‘the’ dress?
I went to three different bridal shops and got my dress from WED2B in Bromley, trying on probably around 20 dresses in total. I liked the fact that at WED2B you tried on dresses in your actual size and you were able to by the dress off the shelf. I knew my dress was the one for me because the blush colour suited my skin tone really well, it fitted amazingly and I was able to accessorise it with an off-the-shoulder lace jacket which matched the lace of the dress and a belt. The dress was an A-line fit with 10 layers of tulle and lace fabric.
What did the bridesmaids wear?
I had three bridemaids, my twin sister and two friends who I have known for around 15 years. They wore knee-length dusty coral pink dresses from ASOS, with Kurt Geiger shoes and fresh gypsophila in their hair.
What did the mother of the bride wear?
The mother of the bride wore a white and pink dress with a floral pattern on Coast with a pink fascinator and Kurt Geiger shoes.
Where did you find your suits?
Daniel got his nevy three-piece suit from Lemming & Masterhand at the Kent Wedding Centre. His best men and the father of the groom hired matching suits from the same venue.
Tell us about your floral arrangements
Our flowers were natural looking in pastel colours. We had focal flowers of sweet avalanche roses and champagne coloured dahlias with hints of white astilbe, pale pink freesia and pale blue delphinium. Buttonholes consisted of Majolika spray roses, eucalyptus, rosemary, gyp, natural stems for the groomsmen.
Tell us about the details of the day
How did you feel as you walked down the aisle?
My legs felt a bit like jelly, but other than that it was just very strange seeing so many people that we knew all in one room together.
How did you make the ceremony personal to you?
We kept the ceremony quite short, but had some songs that we really liked playing in the background while guests waited. We also had our young nephew walk down the aisle first with a sign that said ‘They didn’t trust me with the rings!’.
What was your most memorable moment?
I really enjoyed dancing in the evening with friends and family and using the photobooth.
What was the most important investment for you?
We didn’t want to scrimp on the food and I think everyone was well fed throughout the day. We also wanted to invest in our photography as I really do think you get what you pay for with photography and the photos last a lifetime.
What song did you choose for your first dance, and why?
Our first dance was to I Won't Give Up by Jason Mraz. We wanted a song that wasn’t one that we had heard at other people's weddings and one that that we would be able to do a waltz too, getting others to join in half way through.
Tell us about your wedding cake.
Our wedding cake was made by a local cake baker, The Yummy Cake Company. It was three tiers featuring different flavours: white chocolate and raspberry, chocolate praline and lemon and covered in white buttercream and decorated with fresh real flowers.
Did anything go wrong on the day?
Everything went pretty smoothly and I think that was helped by having a toastmaster, who took the stress away from the wedding party, as we knew he was keeping track of all the timings.
Was there anything you wish you’d known before?
I didn’t think about where I was going to stay the night before the wedding early enough and it seemed like a lot of hotels and B&Bs in the area were already booked up. My advice would be to book that soon after your venues – especially if you aren’t getting married somewhere with accommodation on site.
Where did you go on honeymoon?
We went on honeymoon a few months after the wedding as we wanted to just relax post-wedding. We went for a brunch together with about 12 people from the wedding the day after and went away for a couple of days to Rye just by ourselves. Our honeymoon was three months later and we went to Thailand for 11 days.
Do you have any advice for couples in the planning stages?
Ceremony venue: Tonbridge Castle
Reception venue and catering: The Plough at Leigh
Photography: Howling Bassett Photography
Bouncy castle: Hags Vintage Hire
Singer and guitarist: Rob Austen from Tailored Entertainment
Cake: The Yummy Cake Company
DJ: DJ Lucci
Photobooth: Magical Times Photo Booth
Hair and make-up: Carla Belle Envie
Toastmaster: Guy Boyling, email@example.com
Florist: Elli Cawse
Wedding stationery, table decorations and bunting: supplied by bride and groom.
Posted on 23rd August 2019 by Sarah Harris in Real Weddings.